Chronic Body Confidence

Hello, you! I hope you’ve been doing well and being your sassy self! I’m finally back, after not posting for AGES. I’ve set myself the goal of blogging at least once a month but we’ll see how that goes!;) Today, I want to talk to you about CHRONIC BODY CONFIDENCE (my term for body confidence with a chronic illness – quippy, I know;)). I know for so many people, feeling body confident can be a struggle. I consider myself lucky because, until recently, I’ve always been a confident person (sometimes, maybe too confident). However, over the past year, my body confidence has absolutely PLUMMETED. I’ve put on a fair bit of weight as a result of having multiple surgeries in the past 18 months or so, and the pain means I haven’t been able to exercise much at all. Also, I don’t know about you but I’ve found I often can’t be bothered to eat healthily when I’m in pain and very much enter a ‘fuck it, have a burger’ mindset. Of course, nothing’s wrong with this when you’re treating yourself but I have been banqueting like Henry VIII a lot of the days. Something I really struggle with is… View Post

Happy Notes

Hello, you!   Hope you’re well, please do excuse my month long absence – clearly my ‘twice weekly’ posting schedule is just not something I roll with, ALAS, here I am – surprise! Over the last month, I have developed the habit of writing happy notes and leaving them in places, like books, for people to find. If you don’t know what a happy note is, essentially all it is is a bit of paper/post-it note/you name it, with a positive message written on it. I left these notes around a couple of times when I was sixteen but then the misery of life got the better of me and there was no more joy to spread, STOP YOUR TEARS, I’M KIDDING – I don’t know why I stopped doing it, to be honest, so here I am, back at it again, aged 21.   You may have seen these on Instagram   I regularly get into the habit of collecting things for a ‘creative project’… Sometimes I won’t even have a project, I’ll just see something and think ‘this could be so cool for something one day’ – I blame my mum and her many creative ventures. Just over… View Post

‘Learn to Rest, Not to Quit’

Hello, you!   I am absolutely living by this marvellous Banksy quote at the minute – ‘If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit’. It’s almost a month on from my surgery (you can read about it here) and as the pain is VERY gradually getting better, the exhaustion from everything that has happened is really starting to set in. Every Sunday I say to myself ‘I’m going to go into labs tomorrow’ and every Monday morning I’m unable to get out of bed, due to a combination of pain, painkillers and lack of sleep. It’s been very frustrating because I hate not being able to do anything and I’m going a bit stir crazy. Yesterday I said my famous sentence, that I was planning on going into uni on Monday, and my lovely boyfriend said ‘try not to get your hopes up because you always get disappointed’ – he said this in a kind way, don’t worry, not a ‘lol good luck with that one, love’ way! It really resonated with me because I need to let my body rest, just because I don’t go into university at the minute, doesn’t mean I’m quitting and giving up,… View Post

Rocking the Red Lip

Hello, you!   Today has been a shitty day, but I managed to conquer it with the number one weapon in my arsenal – A RED LIPSTICK. I don’t think there’s any other type of make-up that makes me feel as strong as a kickass red lip and sometimes, you’ve just got to drag yourself out of bed and put your war paint on.     Loads of people have said to me ‘I don’t feel confident enough to wear red’ or ‘red lipstick won’t suit me’ – NO! I genuinely believe that there’s a red lipstick for everyone, bloody hell, sounds like we’re talking about ‘soul mates’ here, but with lipstick, we may as well be. I believe in red lipstick suiting everyone as strongly as I believe that all men look good in a blue shirt – something that no one has yet proved wrong – fellas, take my advice on this one;) It’s just about finding a red that suits you, or one that you love and feel comfortable in, whether people think it suits you or not – to hell with them, it’s your time to SLAY. Whether it’s a bright red or a red wine… View Post

Dance Away Those Woes

Hello, you!   I’ll be honest with you, I’m not feeling my best at the minute, I’m going through a bit of a shitty patch, but I’m still trying to find little snippets of joy every day. I was talking to my oldest friend, Rose, about how rubbish I’m feeling at the moment – when I said I was feeling rough, her reply was ‘DANCE AWAY THOSE WOES!’ I’ve been meaning to write a post about the art of The Humble Living Room Dance Party and Rose saying that has pushed me to do it. If you don’t like dancing, that’s fine, this probably won’t apply to you… But if you DO, and you’re not feeling great mentally or if you’re just having a crap day, for the love of God, GET UP AND DANCE. I can tell you now, you more than likely won’t feel like it, the thought of moving with enthusiasm and energy might make you wince, but do it. Even if it’s just for one song. That song might only last three minutes – you could do it while you’re brushing your teeth. You see, I was raised in a family that has always encouraged me… View Post